Eros as Indicator

What if, as one indicator of national wellbeing, we took Eros. 

Are the people able to have sexual activity when they want it?

Are the people able to have the kinds of sexual activity they want?

And, what of our wanting? My pre-supposition (which may be wrong) is that a healthy human is a a sexual being, from at least the ages of 13 to 73; and that desire is an indicator of health. So, where desire is not existent, or where desire is socially dangerous, as in the case of pedophilia - what is going on there? It draws a healing attention.

I find myself wanting to take that snapshot of England, like a soil sample. How is the erotic health of the nation? How could I know?

It’s personal to me too. If I were to move home, would I have sexual activity when I want it? Would I have the kinds of sexual activity that I want? Here in the U.S. I pretty much have both, pleasingly.

Historically, in Judeo-Christian cultures, marriage has to some degree been the answer to organising Eros.

These days a lot of people are not married or partnered, and many within marriage are not having the quantity or kind of sexual activity that they would like.

I say this because, if home is yummy, do we reduce our seeking behaviour? And also, ipso facto. Sexuality is beautiful, and life can be good :)

It’s like, how is our soil; is it abundant and flourishing, or is it desiccating, or desiccated?

In the Network for New Culture camps I’ve been attending over the past year as a singing facilitator, I’ve appreciated the way they bring sexuality out of the private and into the public realm. Folks talk about it together in the Zegg Forum. Folks do it together in Aphrodite’s Temple.

It’s really rather interesting.

Experiencing this, I mainly think, thank you. Thank you for this transparency. Thank you for recognising that I am an Erotic being, and not shaming or avoiding this matter. Thank you for making eros more available. Thank you for the healing that you provide to the young woman who stands up and is safe to talk of the trauma she carries in her vagina, or the man who stands up and expresses his shame and struggle at being no good at sex, or the 71 year old grandmother widow who looks at least 20 years younger (her secret, she tells me, is giving up sugar and using EFT to overcome her emotional issues with food) who gets up in great delight because last night her fantasy of 30 years came true, and she was tied to a tree facing the tree, and multiple people came up behind her and did all sorts of things to her and she didn’t know who most of them were, which was totally thrilling and exhilarating for her.

NFNC, thank you.

Honestly I struggle with this pair bonding thing, and I am trying to address this. And I am still a sexual being, and what if marriage is not the only good way to hold Eros within a culture? What are the other good ways? I think NFNC, Zegg and Tamera have parts of the answer. I am questing for answers, and I am enjoying it :)